Who Are We?
Andy and Matt Smith are brothers who were placed into the UK care system by Social Services after neglectful parenting by their biological parents. Following their placement, they were subjected to unrelenting emotional and physical abuse over an eight-year period from 1990-1998 by the very people who had been charged with their care.
As a result of their trauma, both brothers experienced pent up anger, low self-esteem, feelings of loneliness and suicidal thoughts, originating from the abuse that they had suffered during childhood. This culminated in brushes with the law, failed relationships, huge debt, violence, anxiety, depression, OCD and also impacted on the brothers own sibling relationship.
In 2018 the brothers united to found the company “Smash Life”. Drawing on the hard lessons that they had learnt from their own abuse and experience of the care system; as well as their combined 38 years professional experience working with young people and families, they set about building an organisation to help those in similar situations.
Offering their own inspirational talks and training to young people and organisations the brothers are able to provide a unique insight into real life lived within the care system.
Their hope is that Smash Life can be used as a support tool by Education, Organisations, Parents, Councils and the Care System, to help prevent children and young people from ever having to experience what they went through.
Skills We Teach
SERVICES THAT WE OFFER
Smash Life is creative in its approach to reaching the children and young people we work with. It is limiting to just sit in a room and ask a young person to just “talk about it” and this can be oppressive for some young people.
By bringing activities such as sport, music, games, walks and trips to our mentoring and other services, we have found that they provide better engagement and overall positive results for the young people. The feedback has been overwhelmingly positive in this area with the young people enjoying and looking forward to their sessions. As a further and practical addition, we now also offer an NOCN accreditation which can be completed alongside our mentoring service!
We offer a wide selection services, from various support services and training to keynote speeches and inspirational talks. Tapping or clicking the tabs below will provide you with an overview of each service. To find out more detail, please visit our ‘SERVICES’ page by clicking or tapping HERE.
Catering to young people and professionals, our Talks focus on Adverse Childhood Experiences, Abuse, Complex Trauma and Safeguarding and are designed to help professionals understand children and young peoples’ behaviour, change approaches and perceptions and bring a reality to practice that can’t be obtained through books. Young people will receive a hard hitting, factual story that will help them to understand that they are not alone with their own trauma’s and can build up their own skills and resilience, following the positive example set by the Smash Life brothers.
We offer a ‘Smash Life NOCN Qualification’ that young people aged 11-18 can complete alongside our bespoke mentoring sessions! This qualification provides a way for the young person to learn new skills that they will be able to take into further education, training or employment.
Smash Life is creative in its approach to mentoring. We are able to engage and connect through activities and positive diversions, which enable the young people to open up to us so that we can really focus on their voice.
By bringing sport, music, games, walks, and trips to expand on the Mentoring we have achieved better results and the young people actually enjoy and look forward to the sessions. We believe that showing our own vulnerability will inspire those we mentor to share their own.
As an extension to our group work and mentoring services we also provide ‘Mediation’. We have seen many examples of how low-level conflict can quickly escalate into bigger issues for the individuals involved and at a cost to services (NHS/Police/Courts) and sometimes families and the local community. We will attend a meeting in any setting to try and resolve issues between two parties or individuals. Sometimes a neutral mediator can provide a safe platform for individuals to work through their differences without violence being used, whilst at the same time learning how to talk instead of acting through fear or responding to threats of intimidation.
We firmly believe that by providing a space to air grievances that can be listened to and resolved peacefully at ‘ground level’, we can help to tackle some of societies bigger issues – like the rise in knife crime and other criminal / anti social activities. We are all about proactive, early intervention work that can help to create communities inhabited by people who are emotionally intelligent.
We also offer training to groups of professionals working with young people as part of their ongoing professional development. This will not only help to improve practice but also create better outcomes for the young people and families that we all aim to work alongside and empower.
‘Life Story Work’ is a vital and important piece of work for young people in the care system.
Both Smash Life Directors Andy & Matt experienced Life Story Work whilst growing up in the care system and know first-hand how important this work is. We have a dedicated staff member who can support young people who may benefit from Life Story Work.
Some young people in care do not get the opportunity to do this important piece of work due to high waiting lists and eligibility. This work is so important as it can provide young people with a wider knowledge as to who they are, where they have come from and why they are in care. This can help them moving forwards and learning to adapt to their new surroundings.
Our dedicated Life Story Worker can use lots of creativity and work alongside young people, carers and other professionals to create something the young people can keep and look back on in years to come. As well as being a therapeutic intervention, this can also be a fun creative journey for the young person.
“The research has shown us that TLSW strengthens the attachment of a child to a primary care giver, which then supports improvement in peer relationships, education outcomes, reduction in trauma symptoms experienced, reduction of high-risk behaviours, improves mental health and wellbeing and overall, a greater sense of identity” Dr James Lucas.
We are able to use our experience of growing up in the social care system and our many years of working within it, to provide advice and guidance to your organisation on how to create a more young person centred service.
We can observe your practice, or meet with your staff teams to discuss solutions to problems you face and create a safe space for staff to open up and be honest about the challenges they encounter, so that you can identify further training to empower them. We can also advise on things like policies and procedures, safe working practices and ideas based around hearing and capturing the voice of the child throughout the structure of your organisation.
This service can also be provided under the guise of a “mystery customer” or undercover independent examiner, in order to provide your organisation with ‘real life results’ and professional feedback on how you are doing in areas that you want to find out about.
This training is also available to young people who may be within your organisation and require assistance in specific areas or career advice / guidance.
Benefits
Benefits
WATCH THE ‘SMASH LIFE’ VIDEOS
View a selection of our video resources below. Many featuring songs written by ‘Smash Life’ Director: Matt Smith.
These resources are born out of personal experiences and have been made to specifically to help engagement with young people and children going through difficulties and trauma. The videos can be used for free, as conversation starting points or inspirational motivation.
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Below are reactions to our service and keynote speaking from some of our recent clients and young people!
“…really looks forward to her sessions which is such a transformation – when ….has something to think about ….opens up with us here which is such a relief and …also feels reassured about things on her mind knowing ….can talk it over with Matt”
“I just want to say a massive thank you to Andy for the support I have been given. I can always know that no matter what mood I am in I will always come out of the session smiling. More people should be like this looking out for others.”
“Andy and Matt give so much to those they work with, they really are an inspiration to so many. Being able to relate to the young people they mentor through their shared life experiences gives the young people someone they can connect with openly. I would highly recommend Smash Life.”
“Just had the most inspirational speech from these lads. Absolutely amazing and they should be very proud of themselves and their achievements”
“These remarkable brothers suffered long term abuse, humiliation, degradation and shame at the hands of those entrusted with their care. Their life story is one of courage, resilience and determination.. Their promise to use yesterday and their commitment to each other today, is to be the change for children that they should have experienced. If you are looking for conference speakers, mentors for your children these chaps are going to be booked up very quickly after being invited for by the consortium for therapeutic communities to their first conference debut yesterday.”
“Our young people really value time with Matt. It’s their space. Their time. Time to express how they feel. Time not to be judged or made to conform. Time to be themselves”
“ Since I have seen you I am not arguing with the teachers, its good to know someone has been there and understands.”
“It was really good, he was really cool and I enjoyed the talk because Matt was funny, down to earth and really relatable, not like some teachers who just talk down to you”.
“A big thank you for helping so far on this absolute monumental journey I’ve been on: Anger, Emotions, and Positive vibes so again thank you so much”
“Andy has provided our most vulnerable students with support that they would not be able to access within school. His unique perspective on the issue experienced by LAC has enabled our students to feel secure, in particular during the stressful exam season. This is an excellent example of use of pupil premium funding.”
“I was lucky to hear Andy and Matt present earlier this year and their story must be one that has resonated with me the most. Ever. It has informed our practice at Sandcastle Care and we now weave our therapeutic web into colleges and schools offering trauma informed care training even further. Thank you Andy. Thank you Matt.”
“Incredible. Thank you for sharing your story and advice”
“Andy has a fresh delivery style to bring home the stark reality of young people in crisis and dwelling on his past experiences he provides many ideas on helping young people to get on the right path to make the best life choices they can. He is an inspiration to young people everywhere who are daunted by the challenges life brings them.”
“Thank you for coming along and sharing your story with us all. Such a heartfelt speech that moved everyone in the room, and lots of really important information to take away.”
“Having heard Andy and Matt speak I was able to relate many of the things they said to me and to the young people I work with and could only hope the young people that I work with develop a tiny bit of insight that Andy and Matt have. Their talk and shared experiences show that young people do not need to be a victim of their past and hearing this first hand can only strengthen this belief with the young people they work with. The motivation, humour, honesty and frankness of the talk is moving and exhilarating. I felt a roller coaster of emotions listening but felt even more motivated to support the young people I work with. Since meeting Andy and Matt I have spoken to young people about them – shared their messages and views. Their words have stayed with me and I can relate their experiences to many different situations I come across in my role. I thought I knew a lot “looked after children” , care leavers, the system – but learnt more from this talk than any other course, training or from books.”
“What a breakthrough……he has told you more than he would’ve shared with carers or me on the first meeting”
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